One thing that is true of all relationships - it takes time for us to get to know each other.
We are the sum of all that is in us - our personality can be seen in the descriptive traits of the Signs we were born with.
When we talk about the types of Behaviors (Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts) that are in us, it all depends on the Mix of Signs that we have been given. If we have many of the Intellectual (Thought) Signs, we will approach life from an Objective viewpoint, not showing much Feelings or Emotions about the situations we encounter. If our Signs are mostly of the Feeling variety then we may find ourselves being too reactive to others and we may end up Feeling our way through life. As you can see from the list below, the Signs can also be grouped according to their Behavior:
From what I have learned from studying the Signs of the Zodiac is that we ALL may not have All 3 of the Behaviors in us. The Behaviors we do get from our Signs will determine what type of Responses we will have in our relationships - how Sensitive, Expressive, or Intellectual we are prone to be. For example, if we don't have one of the Signs that has a Thinking Behavior then we will be missing that Behavior in us and we will have trouble Connecting with that Behavior in others, it will be foreign to us. We Behave the way we do because of the Behaviors we start out with from our 3 Guides and our responses to life now are determined by how well our Behaviors have been able to handle the stressors of the environment we grew up in. To learn more about the Behaviors and Signs
We can learn a lot about ourselves by learning the 4 Elements (Fire, Earth, Air, Water) and the 3 Behaviors (Feelings, Emotions, and Thoughts) that give our personality its "color" but there is a lot more you can learn about the psychology of our 3 Minds. Like how the Signs exhibit different traits depending on which Mind they are in. Personality Psychologists say that man has 3 parts to our mind, they see them as Behaviors - Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. I also believe that we all have 3 parts to our personality (which I see as 3 Minds) and that we can learn to clearly see them by the traits we get from our 3 Guides (our Rising, Moon and Sun Signs). Through effort you will be able to see how each Mind is at work in your day to day interactions with others and eventually learn how to gain some control over the parts that you may be having trouble with. Each of our Minds has a separate function inside us (they make up our Feeling, Emotion and Thought responses) and they each respond to life through the abilities of the Signs we have been given - that's why we all don't have the same responses to each event; we're built different. We each are born with a different foundation of Signs to experience life from and we will find others that have some of the same Signs we do but they more than likely would be in different Minds. It would be rare for us to find someone who has the same 6 Signs in the same Minds as we do - except for multiple births).
Our investigation into the inner workings of man's mind are rather new. Freud and Jung have been recognized as
the founder fathers of modern Psychology and much of our understanding of the mind today has been because of
them. I have learned a great deal from their theories but I also have learned that the experiences of our lives have
a great impact on what we will discover on our own and for me I had a need to search and study the disciplines
of Psychology, Astrology and Theology, trying to figure out my own
This chart will hopefully help you see some of the patterns that are linking Astrology, Psychology and Theology.)
|Our Feeling Side||Our Emotional Side||Our Thinking Side|
|WHEN ACTIVE||Birth to 43.5 yrs old||14.5 to 58 yrs old||29 to 72.5 yrs old|
Our Feeling Side can be seen through the traits of our Rising Sign.
Astrology sites talk about our Ascendant (Rising Sign) as being the
Personal area of the
individual, the Face that others see, but also the side of us we like to hold back from others. They say
it is the part of us that others don't get to talk with very often because it is our very private self, a part
of us we feel we must protect except from those we feel close (secure) with. Freud called this part of us the
Id and he said it was the child-like impulses in all of us. Jung called it our Subconscious, which infers a
unknown part of us. I call this side of us our
Child Mind because it is immature in its responses to its
environment - it is our
Subjective side, the part of us that Feels its way through life and it is
how we interpret our environment. It's from this part of us that we learn to love, hate, fear, and have our need to
belong. It's the part of us that pays attention to Past experiences and our memories from the Past get stored
as Feelings in this Mind and we use the abilities of our Rising Sign to learn from Past mistakes. In the Bible
it is called our Human Nature (our Flesh), the part of us prone to succumbing to our Feelings, good or bad. When it is
wounded and damaged it can be the part of us that responds to others in angry, dangerous ways (devilish).
Our Emotional Side is Expressed through the traits of our Moon Sign.
Astrologers say that our Moon Sign is the emotional side that allows us to Relate to
others in our relationships. The Moon is reflective in nature, and, like the real Moon reflects the Sun's rays,
our Moon Sign traits reflect the Behaviors and Energy from our Child and Adult Minds (the traits of our Rising
and Sun Signs). This Mind is our
Adolescent Mind and it is how we can be Expressive in social situations and
it is designed to be our outward communicator. Freud reasoned that we also had an Ego part, which is the same
as Jung's Consciousness. Our Ego is usually the strongest part of our personality, the part that needs to
express its Behaviors more. This Mind is front and center of our being, it communicates the Present,
what's on our Mind at the moment. God talks about this part of us being our Soul, the essence of our being and
the eyes of the body are the window to our Soul. The Soul is the part of us that is developed from the
experiences of the other two Minds and the struggles of life will determine which Mind we propagate the most of.
Our Thinking Side comes through the traits of our Sun Sign.
The Sun Sign represents our will to live. Astrologers say it is the part of us that reasons things out and
makes plans. Freud called it our Super-Ego, the parental side of us and Jung called it our
Super-Consciousness. I call it our
Adult Mind because it is the one in charge of the rest of our self, it uses
thought to figure how to handle our Feelings and Emotions to specific events. This side of us is Societal
focused and it sees life Objectively, having concerns for the whole of our Being and with it we get our Identity.
It's job is to help us have a better Future. This is our Spiritual side and it is the part of that helps us see
that we can make better choices - it is our conscience, the side of us that helps us to live above the hurts and angers of
our Feeling side.
Our 3 Minds contain the character we have developed and what makes us different from others with the same Signs is how our Mix of Behaviors (Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts) and Elements (Energy) has responded to the environment (the influences of parents and friends) we grew up in. This is our psychological state of development. To learn more about Our 3 Minds.
What does it all mean to you and your friends? It is saying that in order to understand people through their
Signs you have to be aware that the traits from a Sign will not be the same in the Adult Mind as they will in the
Child Mind - the traits of a Taurus Rising are not going to present themselves the same as a Taurus Sun Sign
because each Mind has a different focus in the psychology of the individual.
(See also the
of the Signs
I'm also saying that our 6 Signs/6 Houses work together in us - they are not separate individual entities but that they work for the good of the whole, to get us through this life. The Mix of Signs/Houses in us will determine what areas in life we lean towards. If we have many of the Sensitive Signs in us we will present a more caring of others approach to life. If we have many of the Expressive Signs we, more likely, will have a strong ability to just yak about most anything. And if we have a preponderance of Intellectual Signs then our focus in life will be on the world at large and what we can do to change it.
With any person you can't rely on just knowing the traits from their Signs to get a feel for how they have developed because there are many other factors from their Past that have gone into shaping the character they are now showing. It is those unknown experiences from childhood and adolescence that affect many of the choices we are making today (an Alcoholic probably won't be able to succeed as well as someone not on drugs). We also have to concern ourselves with the psychological state of the person we are trying to understand - was there abuse, death of close family members, or parents divorced, in their past.
Anything from their past that has stressed the person is going to be reflected in their whole being and from my
experience the people that have been
Wounded by life more than likely will get locked into one small aspect of
their personality, not able to utilize the rest of themselves simply because it takes a Herculean effort to escape from
whatever imprisoned us in the first place. Someone like myself who has 4 Intellectual Signs and 2 Sensitive Signs may take
decades to clear away the debris that has occurred from the Past. Sensitive Signs in the Child Mind have a way of getting
hurt easier than if a person has Expressive or Intellectual Signs there - that is also one of the indicators of
what responses the person may have gone through as they were growing up.
My own Signs and Personality are a good example of how the 3 Guides are represented in our lives.
I've always suspected that the Other 3 inner Planets (Mercury, Venus, and Mars) are involved in the development of our personality but until now I was not sure how. I've just recently figured out the pattern of how the Signs from these 6 areas Function or work together in us. To learn more about how we are built mentally
Seeing how you have been influenced by all your Signs/Houses will give you a clearer Picture of the personality you
have developed and help you understand why you interact with others the way you do. You don't have to
understand a lot about Astrology to be able to learn about the Elements and Behaviors of the Signs and you
don't have to rely on someone else's interpretation of your
aspects to see how your Signs have molded your
development. All you need to do is find out what Signs you have, from your 6 inner planets and those 6 Houses. Then you
can read and discover all you can about the characteristics that are found in you.
In Summary: The Mixing of traits in us may seem very complicated at first but if you will just start with the basics, the descriptions of the Elements and Behaviors, you will begin to see in yourself and others the Energies and Behaviors behind the choices we all make in life. This chart has many of the Aspects listed for each Sign. They are shortcuts to help you learn and remember what the Signs represent.
All of what you have just learned about our Elements and Behaviors can be found in our personalities and as we interact with others
we are all "broadcasting" our traits through the abilities of our 3 Guides. Just understand that what makes us different from one another
is the possible 6 different Signs combinations and the Experiences we go through from the Houses that have Personal Planets (Functions)
in them. That is why we each appear so very unique. But may I say that with time your eyes will be opened to a whole nother view of the world.
Objective view of your fellow man.
As you get more comfortable with the Elements and Behaviors you can add another dimension to the mix - the Houses. The sequence is:
Coloredby the traits of their Signs.
Life is all about choices and what we choose is based on:
Baggage; the traits
of our Signs AND all are influenced by the Houses our Personal Planets (Functions) are found in.
*** As an added Note *** - I have realised that in order for us to bring together all the many layers of Astrology (Elements,
Behaviors, Functions, Levels, Quadrants, Houses, Planets, and especially Signs), that I had to come up with a word that would
include all the parts. I have chosen the word Realm because I believe that when I write something like
The Earth and Water
Realms .... , it will bring to mind that I am linking together all the similar parts into one group. When I talk about Taurus or
Earth Signs my hope is that in your mind you hear me saying: Self, Ascendant, Reactive, Level 1, House 2, Quadrant 1. They all Point
to what makes a Taurus like he is and I hope they will help you to see what I am refering to when I am laying out my ideas.
I believe right now you have a lot to remember but as it becomes second nature to your Mind then you will begin to see the whole as I do.
Created by Thomas Paul - Have Better Relationships
- last Updated: Jan 1, 2018
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